You may be thinking, “Pregnancy was not suppose to happen at this time of my life.” Making an adoption plan could be a great choice for you and your baby. It is important to get accurate information and below are some frequently asked questions about adoption.
1. How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me?
If you’re not ready to be a parent, you can still choose adoption for your baby.
2. Can I choose the family for my baby?
Yes. Most agencies have many prospective adoptive couples who have been studied and approved. You might also want to choose a friend or someone who has been recommended to you.
3. How much contact can I have with my baby after the birth and after adoption?
You can spend as much time with your baby at the hospital as you choose. When you are planning your child’s adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed through letters and photos. If you prefer not to have any contact, confidential adoption is also possible.
4. How soon after birth will my baby go to the parents I choose?
The timing of your child’s placement depends on your preference, legal aspects, and the role of the birthfather. Many mothers want their baby placed with the adoptive family directly from the hospital, while others may choose interim care while they consider their adoption decision.
5. How much will my child know about me?
Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide social and medical history for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you directly.
6. Does the baby’s father have any rights?
Both you and your baby’s father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, your agency will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.
7. Can my child find me if he or she wants to search someday?
Searching may only be necessary if there has not been ongoing contact. The law in your state determines when and how your child may access the information in the adoption file, which your pregnancy counselor can explain.
8. How can I be sure that my child will be well care for?
There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet that are set by both the agency and the state where they live. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and an adoption specialist will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child’s well-being.
9. Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?
In many states, you will not need an attorney, and most agencies provide services to you at no cost. If you do need an attorney, usually those costs are paid for by the adoptive family.
10. Can I get help with medical and living expenses while making an adoptive plan?
Assistance with medical and living expenses is available through many agencies. For details about how your agency can help you in your particular situation, contact your pregnancy counselor.